Friday, November 14, 2008

Word to the Wise Man

Proverbs 15:11 reminds us, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."

We see this principle displayed in the story of Abigail in 1 Samuel 25. Abigail was the wife of a notoriously evil man named Nabal. When King David asked Nabal to extend hospitality to David's men, Nabal refused. This angered David, and he immediately drew his sword. He commanded his men to descend on the house of Nabal, threatening: "May God do so to the enemies of David, and more also, if by morning I leave as much as one male of any who belong to him" (verse 22).

When word of her husband's defiance reached Abigail, she was quick to act. Verse 18 tells us, "Then Abigail hurried and took two hundred loaves of bread and two jugs of wine and five sheep already prepared and five measures of roasted grain and a hundred clusters of raisins and two hundred cakes of figs, and loaded them on donkeys." Risking her own life, she threw herself at the feet of King David to plead for mercy.

Abigail's kind words and generosity were enough to turn that negative situation around, and her actions saved her household from destruction. And ultimately, she made such an impression on the king that he later took her as a wife.

We see this principle displayed in daily life as well as a soft answer diffuses tense situations in the workplace, avoids needless arguments and uncovers sadness disguised as anger.

But in my home life, I have found something that is often even more effective at soothing anger. With all due respect to the writer of Proverbs, I think he should know that there is something that is powerful enough to soften a mommy's heart when she is at her wit's end. In a word, it's ...

ADORABLE.

My case in point.

Two-year-old Emma has been in all kinds of trouble this week, but somehow she seems to get progressively cuter with each infraction. If I'm not careful, I can find myself so mesmerized when she wrinkles her nose and flashes me a toothy grin that I fail to notice her writing on the furniture, sneaking off with my lip gloss, or inching toward the cookies I said she can't eat right now.

Emma, I'm on to you, little sister! I realize you are adorable, but beauty is as beauty does. Please, no more emptying tubes of toothpaste into the commode, writing on the boys' library books or swiping Mary Ashley's doll. And if you slip into the street with your tricycle again without my permission, you will be punished. Even if you are the cutest-little-girl-I-ever-did-see-my-precious-darling-angel-sweetpie. And I mean it.



19 comments:

Becky Welch said...

It is so hard, isn't it!!!

Kellie Patton said...

She sounds eerily similar to my 2 year old Wilson. =)And he does the same to me!

Belle (from Life of a...) said...

At the age of 18...I still have the same situation with Lorelai. She can just make me so mad one minute and flashes that gorgeous smile the next and off we go to JCrew...It's even worse with her Daddy...He's wrapped so tight around that little finger that it's funny sometimes.

sweeter and the bubbas said...

This post has me laughing...that little girl is so cute! I can totally see how she can soften your heart!

Miss Janice said...

Cute, cute, cute...:)

maryanne420 said...

she sounds just like my 3 year old son. whenever he gets in trouble, he throws in the, "I sorry mommy" with a sad puppy dog eyes.

The Quintessential Magpie said...

So, so precious! Loved your story and the accompanying pictures along with the Bible lesson.

I also appreciate the expression "Pretty is as pretty does." My grandmother used to say that to us growing up, and it really does leave a lasting impression on a child.

Happy Friday,

Sheila... who is not going to run wish scissors today! ;-)

Felicia Eis said...

Aww!!! I know I am going to have the same problem with my little Sammy Girl when I get there :P

"Blossom" said...

So sweet and yet we do have to have rules and they must follow them. I know it's hard for you as a mother but it's so hard for a grandmother too. I know I have six of them and they have a way with us. She is so adorable.
Blossom

Judy said...

What an adorable cutie-pie!

I was at the Prattville T.J. Maxx late yesterday afternoon and meant to e-mail you last night but of course, I forgot! In the clearance section they had four Bordello dinner plates and four Bordello salad plates....I think the dinner plates were $5.00 each and the salad plates maybe $3.00....thought you might want to check it out.

Judy

Lara said...

Fun post. What is about the last child? I ask myself daily.... Great pics of Emma

Miss Lila in Atlanta said...

Melissa,
I can't tell you how much I enjoy your blog. So much so that today I spent $25 on hair ribbons for my 5 year old granddaughter. We came right home from the store and I did up her hair. It's strawberry blonde and about as long as your oldest girls. Thank you for all the good ideas.I wish I had a blog so I could take a picture and show you Ilana's hair. Maybe someday.

Have a grand weekend.
Miss Lila

Karin @ 6ByHisDesign said...

Ohhahahahhaaaha!!! We shared a playdate with a new friend this morning, and as my new mommy friend took her son down the hallway to the bathroom, she said with an interesting voice..."Um, your carpet is wet..." And as she entered the bathroom, she said, "Uh, so is the entire floor of your bathroom..." Lo and behold, my littlest angel-sweetiepie, when told to "Go put away" her brother's clothes that she moments before pulled from his dresser to bring to me, instead, tossed them into the toilet, pulled them out of the toilet, THEN returned them to the dresser where they belonged. Wasn't she thoughtful? Yes, she's the one whose picture on my blog holds the caption: It's a good thing she's so cute.

Good to know she's not the 'only one' (nor am I, as her mother...)

Sandy Toes said...

Is she twins with my red head..oh my! What a cutie!
-sandy toes

Joanne Kennedy said...

Don't think for one minute they don't know how cute they are and they will use against you all the time. LOL

Smart kids!

Hugs,
Joanne

Me said...

ha ha I was like that with Jenny. She was just too cute to be upset with for long :) aren't we the blessed ones?!!!

Live.Love.Eat said...

Hah - cuter with each infraction. Too funny!!!!

Thanks for your comment re: my past. That was so sweet!

Debbie said...

That is hilarious! And yes she is adorable...I think the Lord did that on purpose...made them cute enough that it cuts the tension and diffuses the anger...sometimes ;)

amy said...

great post! My 4 year old drew a "story" on the wall under table this afternoon.

peace,
amy

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